“I’m sorry you feel that way” is what we like to call a thinly-veiled apology. It seems like an apology on the surface, but when you dig deep, the apologizing person still blames you for your attitude. This article will explore some better alternatives to use more apologetic phrases.
What Can I Say Instead Of “I’m Sorry You Feel That Way”?
There are plenty of better ways to apologize to someone if you want to mean it. This article will help you understand the following:
- I’m sorry for making you feel that way
- I’m sorry for what I did
- I’m sorry for the things I said
- I’m sorry for upsetting you
- I’m really sorry
- I did not mean to offend
- It wasn’t my intention to offend you
- I’m sorry, and I’ll do better next time
- My bad!
- Please accept my sincerest apologies
The preferred version is “I’m sorry for making you feel that way.” It works well because we’re not taking away from the gravity of the other person’s “feelings.” Instead, we’re taking them into account and accepting that we may have upset them somehow.
I’m Sorry For Making You Feel That Way
“I’m sorry for making you feel that way” works well because it does not take away from the other person’s emotions. We accept that we caused them harm in some way, and we want to let them know that we apologize for whatever it was that might have caused that.
These examples will help you to make sense of it:
- I’m sorry for making you feel that way! I’ll try harder not to next time.
- I’m sorry for making you feel that way, though I appreciate you having the debate with me.
- I’m sorry for making you feel that way. Truly, I am.
I’m Sorry For What I Did
“I’m sorry for what I did” claims responsibility for an action. We can talk about something we “did” and how we claim that as an error of judgment. It helps to show that we are learning and hope that the other person can forgive us for whatever it was.
Here are a few ways you can make this one work:
- I’m sorry for what I did on the weekend. I’ll make sure not to do it again.
- I’m sorry for what I did. And thank you for calling me out on it.
- I’m sorry for what I did, and I’ll make sure it does not happen again.
I’m Sorry For The Things I Said
“I’m sorry for the things I said” works well when we want to apologize for the content of our words. Usually, that means we are taking back what we said because we accept that someone might have been offended by them.
Here are some examples of how it might look:
- I’m sorry for the things I said when I was drinking. I hope you can forgive me.
- I’m sorry for the things I said. I know now that I was out of line, and I’ll do my best to fix my issues.
- I’m sorry for the things I said. I hope you’re not too angry with me!
I’m Sorry For Upsetting You
“I’m sorry for upsetting you” shows that we accept that our comments might have caused someone to feel sad or upset. We accept the responsibility for this fact, and we want to apologize for it to hopefully make them feel better.
Check out these examples to see how it looks:
- I’m sorry for upsetting you, and I’ll make sure to try harder next time before I say stupid things.
- I’m sorry for upsetting you, and I’ll work on trying to do better so that you don’t get upset again!
- I’m sorry for upsetting you. Is there anything I can do to make you feel better?
I’m Really Sorry
“I’m really sorry” is an easy way to apologize to someone. “Really” works as an emphasizer to the original apology, which shows that we really did not mean to upset somebody.
Here are a few examples of how it works:
- I’m really sorry because I did not realize you were going to take offense to my comments!
- I’m really sorry! I hope you can find some way to forgive me for my message.
- I’m really sorry that I’m the one that has to tell you this, but I feel like it’s my duty.
I Did Not Mean To Offend
“I did not mean to offend” shows that we did not intend for our comments to be offensive. Sometimes, we might not be thinking about what we are saying, which can lead to serious offense caused to certain people.
These examples will help to show you how you can make it work:
- I did not mean to offend, and I’ll be more conscious of the things I say next time.
- I did not mean to offend, and I hope you can find it in your heart to forgive me.
- I did not mean to offend, though that does not mean I’ll be able to change my view.
It Wasn’t My Intention To Offend You
“It wasn’t my intention to offend you” is a decent way to apologize to someone. If we do not want to take back the things we said, we can use this to show that we did not intend to “offend,” but we did, which is why we are apologizing.
Usually, we stick by whatever thing we said that caused someone to take offense. We do not remove the original thought with a phrase like this. We simply accept that we might have offended someone and move on.
Here are a few examples of how it works:
- It wasn’t my intention to offend you, but I can see that’s what I’ve managed to do.
- I’m sorry. It was not my intention to offend you, and I hope you can forgive me.
- Clearly, we share opposing views on this matter. It was not my intention to offend you.
I’m Sorry, And I’ll Do Better Next Time
“I’m sorry, and I’ll do better next time” is a good way to show that we are “sorry” while also accepting responsibility for our actions. Rather than making someone else feel bad, this phrase works to show that we will try to improve ourselves to not offend later.
These examples will help you to understand more about it:
- I’m sorry, and I’ll do better next time! Please forgive me for the time being.
- I’m sorry, and I’ll do better next time! I did not mean to upset you, and I hope you can forgive me.
- I’m sorry, and I’ll do better next time! I’m still learning about how to be a better person, after all.
“My bad” is the best apology we can give informally. It’s much more informal than any other option, and some people would even refer to it as “slang.” We can use this phrase whenever we want to show that we’re sorry about our actions or beliefs.
If our actions have managed to upset someone we know personally, “my bad” is still a really good way to accept responsibility for it. We don’t always need to use obvious apologetic words like “sorry” to get this point across.
Here are some examples that’ll work well for this one:
- My bad! I didn’t mean to say those things in front of your mother.
- My bad! It won’t happen again! You can trust me on that!
- My bad! I’ll make sure to be more sensitive the next time I speak!
Please Accept My Sincerest Apologies
“Please accept my sincerest apologies” isn’t entirely common. It’s also the most formal phrase on this list. If you use a phrase like this informally, it’s likely that it’ll be misinterpreted as sarcastic. You should be careful if you want to use this for a genuine apology.
Still, these examples will help you to make a little more sense of it:
- Please accept my sincerest apologies! I didn’t mean to upset you in the way that I did.
- Please accept my humblest apologies! It was not my intention to say something to offend you!
- Please accept my sincerest apologies! I will not speak out of turn again!
Is It Bad To Say “I’m Sorry You Feel That Way”?
Let us quickly circle back to the original phrase for a second. It would help to understand why we even made this article in the first place when you know more about it.
“I’m sorry you feel that way” is usually bad to say. It’s bad because it takes away from the opinions or feelings of someone else. We’re saying that we’re “sorry” that they have not changed their opinions and have upset them somehow.
Although it looks like an apology, the phrase typically means that we are sorry for something wrong with them. For example, if you said something offensive, and someone called you out on it, they might tell you to stop saying the offensive things.
However, if you do not see them as offensive yourself, you will tell them that you’d rather not stop saying them. You’ll be “sorry” that they feel the way they do, but that doesn’t mean you plan on changing your ways.
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Martin holds a Master’s degree in Finance and International Business. He has six years of experience in professional communication with clients, executives, and colleagues. Furthermore, he has teaching experience from Aarhus University. Martin has been featured as an expert in communication and teaching on Forbes and Shopify. Read more about Martin here.