The verb “to have” talks about ownership of objects and things. Of course, we can’t “have” a person in the literal sense, but we still use it to refer to people. “Thank you for having me” is a great example of this, and this article will explain it to you.
What Does “Thank You For Having Me” Mean?
“Thank you for having me” means we’re thanking somebody for being hospitable and welcoming to us. “Having me” in this sense means someone invited us to some event, treated kindly, and looked after in the best way. It’s a formal way to appreciate the hospitality.
The definition of “have” in this sense, according to The Cambridge Dictionary, is “to experience something.” In this way, we’re “experiencing” a good time with somebody after they’ve looked after us and made us feel welcomed.
Generally, using “thank you” is a much more formal form than “thanks.” Either way, both forms are correct to use with this phrase, and it’s up to you which of them you prefer using.
To help you see how “thank you for having me” (or “thanks for having me”) works, we’ll include some examples. These will help you to grasp the contexts where it’s appropriate to say.
Thank You For Having Me
- Thank you for having me today. I really appreciate everything you did.
- Thank you for having me in the team; you don’t know what it meant to me!
- Thank you for having me on board; this was an eye-opening experience!
- Thank you for having me over again! I promise we’ll go to my house next time!
- Thank you for having me here again; you always know how to cheer me up.
This is the most formal and polite version of the saying. You should use this when you want to make sure you’re keeping polite with the person you’re speaking to.
It usually works best in formal situations, like when you’re speaking to your boss, a colleague, or someone you might not know well (like a hotel receptionist).
Thanks For Having Me
- Thanks for having me on board again! I’ll make it up to you.
- Thanks for having me last night; sorry if my snoring annoyed you!
- Thanks for having me in the team again! I won’t let you down.
- Thanks for having me in mind! I’ll make sure it was worth it.
- Thanks for having me over. I’ll see you again soon.
“Thanks for having me” is more informal. It’s still very polite, but we’re taking away the “thank you” formality of it.
This phrase works best when you’re talking to friends, often to thank them for allowing you to stay at their house or to invite you out for something.
Thank You/Thanks For Having Us
- Thank you for having us over again! We’ll host next time.
- Thank you for having us; we’re very grateful.
- Thanks for having us over! You’re the best.
- Thanks for having us, Millie and Ryan. We’ll repay you next time.
Finally, we might not always use “me” as the pronoun. We can use “us” when we’re talking about more than one person. It could refer to a couple, a family, or a general group of people that you’re speaking on behalf of.
Both “thanks” and “thank you” work here and follow the same polite and formal rules as we mentioned above. Choose which one works best for you.
Does “Thanks For Having Me” Have A Different Meaning?
So, “thank you for having me” and “thanks for having me” are clearly linked. In fact, they’re identical in most ways, and the only difference comes from the formality of it all.
“Thanks for having me” is more informal, but it means the same thing as “thank you for having me.” However, we often use it in more familiar circumstances. We mostly use “thanks for having me” to thank someone for inviting us to their house.
Since we’re familiar with the person we’re saying “thanks” to, they’ve likely invited us over to the house for some reason. Generally, we don’t say “thank you for having me” in this context because it’s unlikely that our boss or colleagues would invite us to their house.
The situations where “thank you for having me” is more common include:
- Work event
- Work dinner
- Work meeting
- Business gala
As you can see, “thanks for having me” is not a good choice for most of those events, which is why it usually comes with a different meaning.
Is It OK To Say “Thanks For Having Me”?
“Thanks for having me” is OK to say in informal situations. We mostly use it after visiting a friend’s house, but it still has plenty of popular usage in English.
To showcase this, you can refer to this graph. Here, “thank you for having me” is the more popular choice of the two. However, “thanks for having me” isn’t far behind it at all. It’s also grown much quicker over the last few decades and will likely overtake “thank you for having me” soon.
As the language develops, it’s common for people to start ditching formal and polite language rules and tones. That’s why phrases like “thanks for having me” are more prevalent than ever.
In a few decades, it may be the case that “thanks for having me” is the more formal option, while “thank you for having me” has all but died out. Such is the way with native language rules and how the speakers use them.
How Do You Reply To “Thank You For Having Me”?
Finally, it might help you to have a few responses ready if someone says, “thank you for having me.” That way, you’re not caught off guard with what you should say.
- You’re welcome
- You’re very welcome
- You’re more than welcome
- No problem
- Don’t mention it
- The pleasure is mine
- Happy to help
- Happy to be here
- You were a delight
All of these options are great to reply to, “thank you for having me.” We want to show the thanker that we’re appreciative of their kind words and that we’d be more than happy to do it for them again.
Martin holds a Master’s degree in Finance and International Business. He has six years of experience in professional communication with clients, executives, and colleagues. Furthermore, he has teaching experience from Aarhus University. Martin has been featured as an expert in communication and teaching on Forbes and Shopify. Read more about Martin here.