If you’re down with the kids, you might be familiar with the phrase “feeling some type of way”. If however, like me, you’re a little bit of a dinosaur, you may not have heard this phrase or know what it means.
It’s the sort of thing your teenage son or daughter might say about someone they particularly like. Depending on who’s saying it, “feeling some type of way” can have two meanings.
What does ‘Feeling som type of way’ mean? The first one is “I want to have sex with you”. The second one is “I don’t know how I feel about you romantically”.
Today, I want to delve into what each of these interpretations means and analyse the quote itself.
Let’s start off by looking at the first word “feeling”. Everybody has feelings. But there are two different types of feeling.
Physical feelings are controlled by our body. These could include hot, cold, hurt (from stubbing your toe), or tired. If this phrase is meant to mean “I want to shag you”, the “feeling” would be physical, that being horny.
Emotional feelings are a little more complicated, they’re controlled by the mind but can be affected by anything. Happy, sad, annoyed, angry, excited. Should the person saying, this means “I don’t know how I feel romantically”, the “feeling” would be an emotional one.
It makes no sense
If you think about it to say that you’re “feeling some sort of way “doesn’t make much sense at all. Because no matter where we are, or what situation we’re in, we’re always going to be feeling an emotion and the sensors on your body are going to be active.
If we’re at work and we’re neither happy nor sad, we’ll still be having the physical feelings.
To say that you’re feeling “some type of way” doesn’t tell you if you’re happy or sad. Angry or excited. Hot or cold. In pain or relaxed.
Let’s look at the interpretation you might not want someone saying about your daughter.
If you really want to spend the night with someone, but you don’t want to be so direct you could say “I’m feeling some type of way”. This is like saying “I want to have sex with you”.
By using euphemisms, you can talk about sex without coming across as creepy or unsophisticated—ideal for people who can be a little bit prudish to just straight up say what they want.
The issue is that saying it might come across as being a bit cheesy and like you’re one of those guys.
A much more pleasant and romantic interpretation of the phrase would be “I don’t know how I feel”.
If anyone says this to you, they’re not sure if they want to pursue a full-on romantic relationship with you, just keep on dating you, but date others too, or just use you for the bedroom.
Critics might argue that this is just a way of manipulating someone. You can make them believe there is potential there when, in fact, you have no intention of taking things further. But I would argue that saying you’re unsure is better than saying you want to be serious when your heart isn’t in it.
Is it proper English?
Some might argue that “some type of way” isn’t proper English, and you should not be using such phrases if you wish to talk correctly. But I don’t agree one bit. I don’t think there is a phrase that conveys what this one is conveying to the same degree.
“I’m feeling a certain way” implies that you know precisely how you’re feeling, and there is no confusion.
“I’m feeling something” might come across as too formal, which might not be perfect in romantic situations.
“I want to have sex with you” and “I don’t know what I want” are a little bit too direct. Our alternative can help to soften the blow.
The way we do love and romance has changed a lot over the years.
In the past, long before any of us were born, marriage has nothing at all to do with love. At first, when we lived in caves, we would just have sex with whoever could produce the babies with the greatest chance of survival.
Then, it became about money and power. You would marry whoever your parents told you to.
After the enlightenment, people opened up about the idea of marrying for love. But recently, love is playing less and less in relationships.
In the hookup culture we’re living in today, people are encouraged to sleep around, at the detriment of their mental health. Despite this, most of us still want to be loved.
As with most phrases within our lovely language, there is more than one way you can go about saying it.
“My mind is all over the place” shows a level of confusion. But it shows that there is definitely something there.
“My heart says one thing, my brain says another” could be ideal for talking to someone who might not be approved by your parents, or your friends.
“I know/don’t know what I want” is a straightforward way of saying it. This can work if you say it to the right person.
When looking at the published usage of this phrase, I was surprised to discover just how recent it is. The earliest example I could find is from 2011.
In the book “Feeling some type of way. These and other poems” is a poetry collection written by Angela Ford Johnson.
There is however nothing to say she made up the phrase herself, she may have heard it elsewhere.
To say “feeling some type of way” can have two meanings.
The first is a euphemism for when you know exactly what you want. And it involves actions that you might not want to talk to your mother about.
The second is a metaphor for not knowing what you want, but knowing that you want some kind of connection with this person.
If we interpret it literally, it doesn’t mean much at all. But literally should not be how we interpret any of the idioms in our language.